WELCOME TO EL ROI! SO WHAT IS EL ROI?
In our featured scripture, Genesis 16:13 we see Hagar react to God meeting her needs. She describes God by one of His attributes. She refers to God as “The God who sees me (El Roi, in Hebrew).” But as with all scripture, we need context to see the significance of this verse.
HAGAR FOUND HERSELF IN A SET OF CIRCUMSTANCES SHE DID NOT CREATE.
Abram (who will later be renamed Abraham) and Sarai (who will later be renamed Sarah) have been promised, by God, that Sarai will conceive and give birth to a son for Abram. That is all well and good, but Sarai is in her 90’s and Abram is around 100 years old. When the promise was first given Abram believed God, but a considerable amount of time has passed since the promise was given. Sarai is tired of waiting. She tells her husband to have sex with her slave girl, Hagar, so that she might have a child for Sarai. Abram agrees, and Hagar gets pregnant.
Sarai later tells Abram that since Hagar conceived she has “despised” Sarai. Sarai then tells Abram that this situation is all Abram’s fault. Abram relents and tells Sarai to do whatever seems best to her, so Sarai mistreats Hagar. Hagar runs away from the abuse, and in the wilderness, she encounters The Angel of The Lord who tells her to go back because God is going to bless her.
THESE CIRCUMSTANCES ARE CREATED BY SARAI AND ABRAM
Sarai complains to Abram saying, “this is all your fault.” Sarai is living in denial like most addicts do. She started this entire process. It was Sarai’s idea for Abram to impregnate Hagar. Addicts, just like Sarai) have to learn to take responsibility for their choices and for the consequences of their choices.
Abram was a willing participant in this sin. Just like a great many addicts (and often those around them that enable them), he chose a remedy to the problem that was both unhealthy and unwise. He didn’t want to address the real cause of the problem he was facing so he took the easy way out. Just like the families of addicts, it was easier to ignore the real reason for the problem than to deal with the problem, thus Abram was not just a participant. He was also an enabler. All of the events that unfolded with Hagar being abused could’ve been avoided had Abram stood his ground, placed the blame where it actually lay, and dealt with the real problem (the poor choices that he and Sarai made) rather than pretending there really wasn’t a problem and choosing not to do the hard work of fixing the problem all because he didn’t want to have a confrontation with Sarai.
HAGAR IS THE ONLY INNOCENT ONE IN THE STORY
Hagar did not choose to be Sarai’s surrogate. She was a slave. She was just told what would happen and she had to comply. I imagine Hagar felt violated by having to have sexual relations with a man around 100 years old. So after the deed is done she was probably traumatized. When she became pregnant, it was only natural to “act out.” She felt (even though she was a slave) that she was better than her mistress, Sarai. She had the ability to have children and Sarai didn’t. Her choice to despise Sarai was not the correct choice but it was natural considering it was Sarai’s idea for Abram to impregnate her. Her poor choices in response to a situation she neither desired or chose, caused her more problems until she felt she had no other option but to make another poor choice, to run away.
This is also a picture of those that love an addict. A situation arises (addiction) they neither desired, asked for, or participated in, yet they find themselves suffering the same (if not worse) consequences that the addict is experiencing. They don’t know how to respond so they react, often times in a very negative way. This creates more problems until finally, they are in a huge mess.
OUR GOAL IS TO MINISTER TO THE “HAGAR’S” OF THE ADDICTION WORLD
We at El Roi ministries seek to minister, first and foremost, to the families that struggle with loving someone that is fighting addiction (we do desire to minister to Sarai and Abram as well). Just as El Roi (The God who sees) saw Hagar’s terrible plight, we see the plight of those that love an addict. And we see that they find themselves in a situation they did not desire or create, yet they still suffer many of the same consequences (or worse) that the addict endures. God’s response was to tell Hagar that He saw her situation, that He had a plan for her life, and that He would faithfully provide for her.
We at El Roi Ministries see the plight of those that love an addict, we KNOW God has a plan their lives, and we would like to help provide for their needs as they battle this situation.
IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO JOIN US, WE WOULD LOVE TO PARTNER WITH YOU
Our God is faithful and we seek to be faithful as well. We as believers have the ability to combat addiction head on. We have the ability to minister to the addict (Sarai), those that enable (Abram), and those who are innocent bystanders (Hagar).
If you would like to participate with us in this ministry, please feel free to contact us. We’d love to work with you to fight for those battling addiction, whichever character they may be.